Proven Aid in Overcoming Shyness, Molestation, Fatness, Spinsterhood, Grief, Disease, Lushery, Decrepitude & More. For Young and Old Alike.
“like i grew up from tiny town-don’t eat the pine nuts, you’ll never fit into your shoes!”
as i listen to chris cleave talk about gold at the philly free library (talk about dreams coming true), i’m reminded of how seeing a writer live means that i’ll never read any further book s/he writes completely in “my” own voice-the one in my head that reads, or the one that reads aloud on occasion. because i got this is how a month after i heard augusten reading from it at harbourfront, i couldn’t help but “hear” it in his voice, and that is amazing. a year ago, i dated an alcoholic and had a hard time understanding the required mindset of AA. i’m glad to hear an addict have the same reservations about the program.
“So in a way, one exists within AA knowing they will at some point drink again because to not drink would be ‘perfection’ and to drink would be a ‘relapse’ and ‘part of recovery’. The price paid would be the number of days one was willing to lose.
All of this is a great deal spent in the company of alcohol, even if one isn’t consuming the stuff. Drinking alcohol with your mind isn’t freedom.
Talking about alcohol every day when you can’t drink isn’t going to work for everyone.
For this reason, AA strikes me not as the cure for alcoholism, but as the next best thing to drinking and the place to bide your time safely and without judgement until you do.
What has worked for me is to find something I wanted more than I wanted to drink, which was a fuck of a lot.
My view that the way to stop drinking is to stop drinking is laughably simplistic on the surface. It’s ‘Just say no.’
It’s also true. The way to stop drinking is to want sobriety more. And then when you feel like a craving, feel the craving until it passes. But don’t act on it-any more than you wouldn’t kill somebody you feel like killing when they cut you off in traffic.” (141)
hands down, this is the best self-help book i’ve ever read.