going beyond sexual politics to the heart of the matter
as i wait to watch the box score of the raptors at memphis (tell me how the grizzlies are at the top of their division and we are 14th?), it is fitting that i’m at this book, the one i picked up on my way to the heartbreaking triple overtime loss to the jazz because i forgot my book at home and needed something to read. it is actually quite an insight-full read despite its scandalous title and flashy cover to match-a cover that caused quite the kerfuffle at the gates of the acc. it did lead to some great discussion with my date and some common ground that wouldn’t be apparent on the surface.
“What can he do? Somebody boosted his Mary J. CD off the dashboard, his new Sean Jean gear ain’t saying enough for him, he is losing flavor by the minute. ‘What to do? What to do? Dreads! That’s it. Dreads! I’ll get some dreads. It works for lesbians.’ A personal cultural revolution takes place, and his appearance is now employed to redefine his solidarity. His girl loves it. It is to her what a blond wig would be for a Sister. She has finally achieved what it is she was looking for-a true Mandingo. She feels his insecurity but dares not mention it; instead, she supports his abrupt transformation while he thanks her for helping to ‘discover’ his culture and bring him back to his roots. She becomes his Columbus, and in turn he becomes her colony.” (85)
“This is where the phrase strong black woman comes from. It was generated to acknowledge that Sisters can stomach an unlimited amount of pain and suffering and still keep on. Yet, somehow, they still firmly believe that white women are pushovers in relationships.” (145)
“False power acts as junk food for the black male’s hunger. Whether it is the pit bull, the ghetto gear, social defiance, a white girlfriend, or an alternate sexual lifestyle, this false power is still one of the most sought-after achievements in order for the black man to sanely function in the white world. In short, the white woman becomes his Happy Meal in more way than one.” (162)
does your white woman go better with your brooks brothers’ suit?
“even my conditioning is conditioned”
all signs point to yes.